Tuesday, October 29, 2013
101 Tips For A Happier Marriage
By Jennifer Roback Morse & Betsy Kerekes
Published 28 October 2013 by Ave Maria Press
None of us have a perfect marriage; we are all flawed and imperfect people yet so many of us married couples seem to expect far higher standards from our spouses than we do from ourselves - me included!
This is a simple and short book of 101 effective tips on how to make your marriage stronger and both of you happier, by accepting that only God is perfect and that we all need to cut each other a little slack and communicate better. Marriage is good for us individually and collectively, as a couple, as a family and as a society and we should all be making every effort possible to support, help and encourage each other to make our marriages stronger.
I really like the way the tips have been split into sections, ranging from "Make A Decision To Love" and "Get It Done Without Drama" to "Understand The Physiology Of Fighting", "Handle Criticism Gracefully" and "Soothe Yourself To Let Go Of Grudges", amongst others. This does make it easier to find things in a hurry when you feel yourself about to launch into meltdown mode! I was not aware of the fact that female stress hormones after an argument can still be at a high level they day after a spat, and that women can easily be precipitated back into a high stress situation in that time; both partners therefore need to tread carefully after an argument to avoid accidentally falling into further confrontation and upset.
It is a very useful little book which gave me lots of food for thought, and I would certainly benefit from reading one tip a day, every day.