The funeral of my stepfather went very smoothly. Distressing, as all these occasions are, but it actually was very comforting too.
As per his request, he was cremated, and there were over 200 people at the crematorium chapel, which was packed and people were standing at the back...........
On Saturday a letter arrived from the crematorium to my mother, advising her that his ashes would not be scattered in the Garden of Remembrance (as she originally wished) for a further 14 days, as so many families in the past have changed their minds once the funeral is over.
As a result, my mother has indeed changed her mind and today we have arranged for the purchase of a plot at the Crematorium Garden for his ashes to be interred in , which enables a slate memorial plaque to be affixed as well, which means that we will be able to go and lay flowers there etc.
I am actually really glad she has changed her mind, as I like to be able to go and lay flowers and pray at a burial plot. Looking at a lawn where there may be several hundred folk`s ashes scattered, with no mention of a name anywhere near their resting place is a very poor substitute in my mind............almost as though they never existed.
I know many people like this method of disposal, but it seems so clinical to me, personally.
Thank you all for your prayers, they are very much appreciated.