How do you deal with other children hurting your child`s feelings ?
D3 is struggling with this at school at the moment. She is a sweet and loving child who would never willingly hurt anyone else, either physically or verbally. She is also very easily upset by people making fun of her.
It is a great little school, but there are a handful of children who are either actively malign and take real delight in hurting people`s feelings, or they are just utterly dysfunctional and don`t realise that what they are doing is wrong.
I can`t quite decide which label to assign to the dear little sods (oops, slip of the fingers) children.
All I do know is that I would dearly love to get them in a quiet place and give them the darn good talking to which they so richly deserve and which I wish their parents would give them if they either knew or cared what their little dears are busy doing.
Yesterday was No Uniform Day, for which they pay 50 p to the school to raise money.
DD3 decided to wear a very fetching and mega- brightly coloured flower print trouser and crop top outfit.
Lovely and summery, and she looked great. She sensibly chose to wear her black school shoes so she could run around in the yard at playtime, as normal.
When we arrived at school, there were kids wearing just about every outfit under the sun, and one little girl actually turned up in full school uniform and was in floods of tears when she found nobody else was.
At hometime, my little one was really uspet. Some of the kids had been taunting her saying that she had come to school wearing her pyjamas, and that she looked stupid etc.
Then she was teased because she was wearing her school shoes and some of the teasing kids were wearing high heel shoes ( and they are only six and seven , remember !) and strappy sandals.
Helen did have the last laugh though, as none of the kids wearing flip-flops, strappy sandals or high-heels were allowed to join in any of the playground games and races, and she could.
When she came home and told me this, by heart ached for her and my stomach churned.
Why her ? She doesn`t care what anyone looks like or wears, or how they talk. Her best friend is a little girl from Thailand, whom she befriended and looked after from the time this girl arrived in school scared and barely speaking any English at all. Helen looked after her unprompted because she wanted to help her.
She is so tolerant and caring of others, and others mock her for it.
It is not fair.
We did have a long chat about the fact that some children simply don`t know how to behave any better, that they just sometimes blurt out whatever poisonous rubbish pops into their heads without thinking of whether it might hurt someone`s feelings, and that she does know better, and because she does try so hard to be kind that God especially loves her for it, and she was somewhat comforted.
I still grieve for her sadness.
I know I cannot protect her from all the storms of this world, but I still wish that I could....